Just a warning....I already know that this may upset some women but this is how God views a woman of God and a wife.
Times have changed so much and being a biblical wife seems to be a rarity in this day and age. I am guilty of not being a biblical wife, at times. Until I was truly saved, I never knew what it meant.
It is 2011 and many women feel that they are equal to men. They can make as much money if not more, they have children before even thinking about the possibility of marriage, they run for vice president, they are the heads of households.....but what does it mean to be a woman of God? What is our role?
I know that I used to try to lead our family, I cared about being successful, I put 110% in everything I did whether it was teaching, graduate school, anything. Now, don't get me wrong, there's nothing bad about some of those things but when it takes away from your role as a wife and a mother, then it's a problem. When your standards are based on society's and the world's view, then it's a problem.
I used to want to be pleasing in society's eyes. I had to do everything in the right order, I wanted to be successful, have nice things when I wanted them, be well liked, I even wanted Grayson to grow up to be super trendy and well liked when he grew up. Yet God got a hold of my heart and he changed it. Now, I want to fulfill my duties as a wife and a mother first and foremost. That is my ministry that God has given me. I want to raise Godly children and I want to make sure I support my husband as he leads our family.
My sister has really been an inspiration to me through her faith in the Lord, as well in this matter. What we both realize is that it's not what we want or what our plans are, it is about following God's plans and that starts by looking at His word to see what a woman's role is.
"Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior,(D) not slanderers(E) or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, 4and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, 5to be self-controlled,(F) pure,(G) working at home, kind, and(H) submissive to their own husbands,(I) that the word of God may not be reviled."- Titus 2:3-5
This verse is a wonderful example of what it means to be a woman of God. Most of society now would say that it is so aged and "old school." Yet, God's word is unchanging and stands true throughout the times. I am personally convicted by this because for so long, I have wanted everything to revolve around me and my plans (which I may stumble upon at times) but it's amazing to have a clear directive of what God wants me to be. Since he has chosen to save me through His grace, the least I can do is strive to fulfill His requirements of a woman and to stand beside my husband as he is the leader of our family. Many women are so caught up in the Sex and the City lifestyle or find themselves coveting that life but how much sweeter is it to serve your husband and raise your children in the way of the Lord as opposed to the way of the world?
I am not here to judge or condemn as I face some of the same struggles but I just ask you to please think about what kind of wife and mother you are or strive to be?
We all fall short of the glory of God but he sent His only son to be the ultimate sacrifice for our sinful and wretched selves. Once you repent and turn from your sin and trust in Him, He will take a hold of your heart and change it all. How amazing is it to have a God that is so just and holy? I pray that this has touched your heart and makes you think about your duties as a wife and mother...I know reading that verse really made me think! Now for movie time with my wonderful husband...
Goodnight, God Bless, and Lots of Love!!
-Melanie
Tuesday, March 15, 2011
Sunday, March 13, 2011
My Testimony
So...here I go starting a fabulous (at least I hope so) new blog! This will be my own personal journal/information on my personal journey as a biblical, Christian young woman in a modern society. I hope to post things to help support ladies seeking to be true women of God and my own personal account of my struggles and experiences.
I guess I should start, first and foremost, with my own little personal testimony. So here it is.....
Since I was a kiddo, I always prayed to God. I would just have "talks" with God and I would pray about everything. I can still remember praying oustide that I would get to spend the night at my friends house or that I would get something that I was wanting. I always thought that I had a relationship with God because I believed there was a God and I prayed to Him. Fastforward years later to when I was in high school. I went to church, went to youth group, talked to others about God and thought I was a good person. Yeah, I made mistakes but I asked for forgiveness and didn't do a lot of bad stuff...I must have been a Christian, right? So WRONG!!! Next we have the college years....I tried not to drink a lot and made some stupid choices at times but I stayed out of trouble and I tried to do what society says is "good" and "what you're supposed to do." I was in a sorority (which I do love Chi-O) and graduated and got married(met my hubby at church), became a teacher, bought a house with my husband, had babies, finished grad school and did everything I had planned and wanted to do in order. Perfect, right? While I am so blessed and thank the Lord every minute for it, it was not until last year that I was TRULY saved. I know that God used my husband as an instrument in me being saved. Joey, my hubby, had attended the Ambassador's Alliance in LA 2 years ago. He came back with a new heart and a new mind. God opened Joey's eyes to the truth.
Now, let me tell you this before I proceed and this is the scary part. All along since Joey and I had started dating...we thought we were Christians. We went to church everyday, prayed together, helped others, and thought we were good-law abiding citizens. Well, back to Joey's experience. When he came back it was extreme. I had a hard time understanding it all and I was actually fighting him on the some of the changes he wanted to make for our family. I kept thinking..."We ARE Christians, why is he acting like the way we are living is not okay?" Well, slowly God began to change my heart and mind.
The day that I realized I was a wretched sinner (I know that sounds harsh) is the day that I was truly saved...I know it sounds crazy but the day that I realized that I am nothing without God and his grace is the day my life changed.
I repented of my sin and began to trust in the Lord and I am so thankful that he chose to save me...
You see we have all fallen short of the glory of God....we are all sinners. As much as we don't want to admit it, we all have selfish motives in our hearts. We all want what we want more than what God wants. Now, I want God's will to be done and not my own. Do I still struggle? Everyday. Everyday I fight a battle....I want to live for God and I want to be a biblical wife and a gentle, loving mother....everything that God commands us women to be. Yet, I battle the temptation of getting caught up in the world and breaking God's law.....coveting for example. I will see an absolutely gorgeous pair of shoes or I will begin to want that Louis V sitting in the window and I just have to have it. Am I saying that wanting those things are bad? No. But putting my effort and time and thoughts in obtaining something rather than focusing on Christ is. He died for my sins and was the ultimate sacrifice. Our God is so amazing to save us from an eternity in hell. On top of that (how can you beat that?), he gave us all His word on how to live. He made it so clear but many are so lost.
I just pray that this blog will be a way to gain support from other Christian women and maybe will help other women who have the same struggles that I have. I hope you enjoy and I look forward to this blog!!
Love,
Melanie
I guess I should start, first and foremost, with my own little personal testimony. So here it is.....
Since I was a kiddo, I always prayed to God. I would just have "talks" with God and I would pray about everything. I can still remember praying oustide that I would get to spend the night at my friends house or that I would get something that I was wanting. I always thought that I had a relationship with God because I believed there was a God and I prayed to Him. Fastforward years later to when I was in high school. I went to church, went to youth group, talked to others about God and thought I was a good person. Yeah, I made mistakes but I asked for forgiveness and didn't do a lot of bad stuff...I must have been a Christian, right? So WRONG!!! Next we have the college years....I tried not to drink a lot and made some stupid choices at times but I stayed out of trouble and I tried to do what society says is "good" and "what you're supposed to do." I was in a sorority (which I do love Chi-O) and graduated and got married(met my hubby at church), became a teacher, bought a house with my husband, had babies, finished grad school and did everything I had planned and wanted to do in order. Perfect, right? While I am so blessed and thank the Lord every minute for it, it was not until last year that I was TRULY saved. I know that God used my husband as an instrument in me being saved. Joey, my hubby, had attended the Ambassador's Alliance in LA 2 years ago. He came back with a new heart and a new mind. God opened Joey's eyes to the truth.
Now, let me tell you this before I proceed and this is the scary part. All along since Joey and I had started dating...we thought we were Christians. We went to church everyday, prayed together, helped others, and thought we were good-law abiding citizens. Well, back to Joey's experience. When he came back it was extreme. I had a hard time understanding it all and I was actually fighting him on the some of the changes he wanted to make for our family. I kept thinking..."We ARE Christians, why is he acting like the way we are living is not okay?" Well, slowly God began to change my heart and mind.
The day that I realized I was a wretched sinner (I know that sounds harsh) is the day that I was truly saved...I know it sounds crazy but the day that I realized that I am nothing without God and his grace is the day my life changed.
I repented of my sin and began to trust in the Lord and I am so thankful that he chose to save me...
You see we have all fallen short of the glory of God....we are all sinners. As much as we don't want to admit it, we all have selfish motives in our hearts. We all want what we want more than what God wants. Now, I want God's will to be done and not my own. Do I still struggle? Everyday. Everyday I fight a battle....I want to live for God and I want to be a biblical wife and a gentle, loving mother....everything that God commands us women to be. Yet, I battle the temptation of getting caught up in the world and breaking God's law.....coveting for example. I will see an absolutely gorgeous pair of shoes or I will begin to want that Louis V sitting in the window and I just have to have it. Am I saying that wanting those things are bad? No. But putting my effort and time and thoughts in obtaining something rather than focusing on Christ is. He died for my sins and was the ultimate sacrifice. Our God is so amazing to save us from an eternity in hell. On top of that (how can you beat that?), he gave us all His word on how to live. He made it so clear but many are so lost.
I just pray that this blog will be a way to gain support from other Christian women and maybe will help other women who have the same struggles that I have. I hope you enjoy and I look forward to this blog!!
Love,
Melanie
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